tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post2390290422723107024..comments2024-03-27T14:12:06.545+00:00Comments on The Brick Castle: 16 Months After Losing Elspeth....Jenny at The Brick Castlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00090208734161519771noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-31048527807920522192020-02-17T14:40:56.976+00:002020-02-17T14:40:56.976+00:00Thank you for your comment, but I'm so sorry t...Thank you for your comment, but I'm so sorry that you had that comment to make. Survivor guilt after losing someone to suicide is very real, and it can be completely crippling. My counsellor said to me often to 'remember it is an individual act carried out alone. It isn't your fault'. I can clearly see that with everyone else, I'm not sure I'll ever entirely be able to accept it as my own, but they are words we should always remember. Strength to you and your family, I am truly sorry you have lost him. Jenny at The Brick Castlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090208734161519771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-11930237960897003732020-02-16T23:52:23.643+00:002020-02-16T23:52:23.643+00:00Thanks for this post. We lost our nephew to suicid...Thanks for this post. We lost our nephew to suicide several years ago, and we think of him often, wondering what we could have said or done to have averted this, wondering why we had not realised how he was feeling, wondering why we did not notice signs of what he was planning. The pain of loss never goes away, but at least it becomes more bearable with the passage of time. fjk42https://www.blogger.com/profile/12452366438638531873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-56768817481345109322016-12-30T09:05:13.358+00:002016-12-30T09:05:13.358+00:00Very sad and beautiful post Jenny. I hope this yea...Very sad and beautiful post Jenny. I hope this year was a little easier for you all. I'm off to share your words of wisdom. I'm just sorry you had to learn them.Practically Perfect Mumshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04584323757398128526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-77033638006158038312016-04-16T13:44:00.923+01:002016-04-16T13:44:00.923+01:00Oh Jenny, I was just reading your post that links ...Oh Jenny, I was just reading your post that links back here and I remember coming here and clicking away because I couldn't face your words when Christmas was my time of loss. You are so right though, every point you make makes so much sense. I learnt many years ago that suicide was not the answer, it's such a shame that Elspeth didn't realise this. xxx Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14922568143111623696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-87102785616535245032016-01-05T14:32:00.317+00:002016-01-05T14:32:00.317+00:00I am glad that you can see how much you are loved....I am glad that you can see how much you are loved. You are well-liked generally, I'm sure no-one wants to think that you'd ever lose sight of that. <br />I'm not so wonderful, I was just put into the wrong place and spill out the crap that fills my head sometimes to make room for some other stuff - like where the keys are or what on Earth I'm cobbling together for dinner. I hope you have all the support you need, and if you don't I would be happy to help you look for your ladder xxJenny at The Brick Castlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090208734161519771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-62901183529742217022016-01-05T13:33:35.987+00:002016-01-05T13:33:35.987+00:00You are such a wonderful woman to not only keep go...You are such a wonderful woman to not only keep going at this difficult time but to help others. Thank you for this post - Elspeth keeps me going and how she felt is exactly how I feel and I have to admit the end of this year was very tough but the hope that I may actually be as loved as she is kept me going. I'm just so sorry she didn't get to know it sooner xxPinkoddyhttp://pinkoddy.co.uk/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-81588615312662103622016-01-04T21:33:20.407+00:002016-01-04T21:33:20.407+00:00Hiya Caroline. I am truly so sorry for you and you...Hiya Caroline. I am truly so sorry for you and your family that you lost your father. I had promised my family I wouldn't use my laptop over Christmas, so was unable to respond to your comment before today, but you were also in my thoughts. <br />He loved his tree! It has to come down tomorrow...boo! xxJenny at The Brick Castlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090208734161519771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-75435707120791245962015-12-30T18:25:00.966+00:002015-12-30T18:25:00.966+00:00I'm new to reading your blog and I had no idea...I'm new to reading your blog and I had no idea about your daughter. I'm so sorry, I can't begin to imagine what you've been through and go through every day. I hope your post inspires others to seek help x Sian QuiteFranklySheSaidhttp://www.quitefranklyshesaid.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-61483054486520407522015-12-21T08:05:32.977+00:002015-12-21T08:05:32.977+00:00Very wise words for all families who have children...Very wise words for all families who have children who are depressed, anxious or suffer from low self-esteem. I hope you are all able to have a peaceful Christmas xLooking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-58153561021191705132015-12-17T19:56:31.560+00:002015-12-17T19:56:31.560+00:00My father committed suicide a little over 9 years ...My father committed suicide a little over 9 years ago so I can relate to much of what you say here. Though I don't like to imagine how hard it must be to lose a child, especially in this way. Well done for sharing this post and I hope it touches someone and even if it prevents one person taking their life then it is worth it. My thoughts are with all of you and we'll done for starting to look forward and celebrating Christmas. Your son looks so happy with that tree! XxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15520390829505052652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-70027467426243076452015-12-17T11:00:37.847+00:002015-12-17T11:00:37.847+00:00As always a lovely and heartfelt post x As always a lovely and heartfelt post x Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05098079620375413684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-73337212335492514212015-12-17T10:07:14.956+00:002015-12-17T10:07:14.956+00:00A deeply touching post. Thank you for sharing. I h...A deeply touching post. Thank you for sharing. I hope this post touched another person's great and represents something like the first rung on a ladder. One day, one step at a time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-48054601931590334882015-12-17T07:37:41.632+00:002015-12-17T07:37:41.632+00:00I sincerely hope that this post will inspire someo...I sincerely hope that this post will inspire someone to get some help if needed. I hope you all manage to have a good Christmas. Sending hugs xxKirsty HijackedbyTwinshttp://www.hijackedbytwins.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-48425647217929800672015-12-16T22:43:00.084+00:002015-12-16T22:43:00.084+00:00As I said last night, I really hope that this help...As I said last night, I really hope that this helps other seek help xMary @over40andamumtoonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03781361285071744721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-21079395673279175842015-12-16T22:19:56.285+00:002015-12-16T22:19:56.285+00:00Amazing post from an amazing lady and family Xxxxx...Amazing post from an amazing lady and family Xxxxxxx Mothergeekhttp://www.mothergeek.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-24187996657254252942015-12-16T20:50:56.008+00:002015-12-16T20:50:56.008+00:00I love that you are able to write openly about Els...I love that you are able to write openly about Elspeth and I know that you help many others through doing so. I admire you and your family and have you all in my thoughts constantly. <br /><br />Keep collecting them smiles - they are beautiful! Kel (@MoolBoots)http://www.writingsramblingsandreviews.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-65730844530539005522015-12-16T18:35:39.261+00:002015-12-16T18:35:39.261+00:00I really feel for you and I can't imagine the ...I really feel for you and I can't imagine the pain of losing a child, but i do know the pain of losing my husband and how hard this time of year is. I was so sad to hear about your daughter, you are touching so many people by writing this down and hopefully someone who is in a bad place will read it and you might just save their life. Lots of love xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08865104576562908232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-5985105880999329042015-12-16T14:06:22.183+00:002015-12-16T14:06:22.183+00:00As always, your words tell the story of the streng...As always, your words tell the story of the strength of love and support that holds you all together. A beautiful post that I hope catches people before they lose themselves in the darkness that can creep up. <br />There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about Elspeth, and all of you. Of your husband and his health, of your strength to keep going and finding the smiles together. You are a beautiful family. Your smiles spread smiles on the faces of all the lives you touch. <br />Sending love xElizabethhttp://elizadolots.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-88584668060944656822015-12-16T13:37:27.278+00:002015-12-16T13:37:27.278+00:00Hugs to all of you- lovely post.
Merry ChristmasHugs to all of you- lovely post.<br /><br />Merry ChristmasLindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00811726513399647085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-48714832959002363812015-12-16T10:37:04.069+00:002015-12-16T10:37:04.069+00:00I know your 9 year old is really struggling at the...I know your 9 year old is really struggling at the moment.I hope that she can soon see as she matures and gets more control over her life everything will become easier. I wish you the best Christmas you can all have xxJenny at The Brick Castlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090208734161519771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-8119380538979077842015-12-16T10:31:20.735+00:002015-12-16T10:31:20.735+00:00I'm sorry you cried Ruthy, and I'm sorry f...I'm sorry you cried Ruthy, and I'm sorry for your lost friends. It's never easier without them, and you never forget xxxJenny at The Brick Castlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090208734161519771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-67579867506436380642015-12-16T10:30:17.385+00:002015-12-16T10:30:17.385+00:00Bless you Jen, those are lovely comments. I shall ...Bless you Jen, those are lovely comments. I shall very much look forward to seeing those smiles xxJenny at The Brick Castlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090208734161519771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-89046713119231185662015-12-16T10:29:29.793+00:002015-12-16T10:29:29.793+00:00I'm sorry I make you cry - I hate to think of ...I'm sorry I make you cry - I hate to think of people crying unless it's good tears. The statistics are horrific, so many lost lives, so many friends and relatives. Suicide affects everyone xxJenny at The Brick Castlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090208734161519771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-6811292274237740142015-12-16T10:28:14.926+00:002015-12-16T10:28:14.926+00:00Thank you for your comments Ali.I'm very sorry...Thank you for your comments Ali.I'm very sorry that you and your daughter have lost your friend. I hope that you remember him well and the memories serve as reminder to speak up and get help should it ever be needed xxJenny at The Brick Castlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090208734161519771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2308635202411289169.post-57597367462236722812015-12-16T10:26:14.871+00:002015-12-16T10:26:14.871+00:00Thank you Eileen. I really hope they do too. Have ...Thank you Eileen. I really hope they do too. Have a lovely Christmas xxJenny at The Brick Castlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090208734161519771noreply@blogger.com